EFFIE BATEMAN | Lifestyle | Contact
A woman has today begun to question if her relationship is meant to be, after finding herself embroiled in an argument for the third time that week over nothing in particular.
As someone who grew up longing for a relationship like the one she’d seen in The Notebook, Jane Eyre and The Vampire Diaries, Anna Rutmore had been long conditioned to mistake volatility for passion – because, unlike books and movies that need multiple plot devices to hold a reader’s attention, a real life relationship that consists of too many ups and downs is fucking exhausting.
When Anna had met her partner Ryan a few months ago, she’d initially thought she’d found the one, enjoying the honeymoon phase of the relationship where everything was new and exciting. But after the gloss wore off and the arguments increased, Anna began to question if the perks were worth having to walk on seashells, and if it was simply a learning curve where they have to figure out eachother’s communication styles – or if it was time to call it in altogether.
Speaking to our reporter, Anna explains her inner conflict.
“I’m not sure if it’s just teething troubles and it’ll get better in time?”, says Anna, sadly, “when we get along it’s so good, but when it’s bad, it’s like two battering rams.”
“Do I work through it? He said he’d see a therapist?”
“I think it’s because his mum was a bit dismissive when he was a kid so he’s developed an avoidant attachment style. Which really isn’t his fault, if you come to think of it.”
Adding that she was at her wits end, Anna says she constantly grapples with wanting a secure, stable relationship, but that she also gets bored easily too.
“Fuck, I don’t know. Maybe I’m the problem?”
“Can I get someone passionate without the rage issues? I want that Morticia and Gomez style relationship.”
“You know what I mean?”
More to come.